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建议每个女孩都读读《他 没那么喜欢你~

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梁朝伟说过:男人如果爱你,那你就一定会感觉的

一部美国刚上映的电影,叫《He's Just Not That Into You》,其实他没那么喜欢你。

“所有未婚女青年都该去看一下这部电影。”

电影的开头,很有趣。

从非洲某部落的土著,到纽约高级餐厅里的白领,

从体态富贵的中年妇人,到魔鬼身材的窈窕少女,

世界上,几乎每一个角落里,都有女生在问:

为什么他没有给我打电话?为什么他不来找我?为什么他突然失去了联系?

然后,这样的女生身边,总有一群劝解她的死党好友。

好友总是说,“他这样做只是因为太爱你了”,“也许他害羞”,“也许他自卑”,“也许他不知道怎么联络你”,“相信我,他肯定是喜欢你的”……

女人们只想赶快让姐妹们笑起来,却很少想该怎么让她们清醒。

事实是,也许他只是不想找你。

电影说,如果一个男人真的喜欢你,他会动用一切力量去找到你,手机,email,msn,google……

这已经不是石器时代了,真正喜欢你,即便经历海啸、洪水,即使你消失在人海,大海捞针他依然会找到你。

如果他答应你的事却没有做到,哪怕那只是一个电话。

不要给他找借口,“他真的很忙所以忘了”、“至少他真的与我道歉了”……

他很忙,你也不轻松,这个城市有谁不忙?

是忙到即将就任美国总统,还是一个小时有好几亿的生意要谈?

有手机、有快速拨号、甚至有语音拨号,有时压根没想打电话,电话就从裤兜里拨出去了,

如果真的喜欢你就不会忘记,如果忘记说明他不在乎你失望。

男人对自己想要的东西是永远不会说“忙”的。

如果他暧昧不清。

不要替他解释:“他以前受过伤”、“他刚刚分手/离婚,他想慢慢来”、“他习惯了自由”……

一个男人若是真的喜欢你,就不会暧昧不清,就会昭告天下对你的所有权。

如果喜欢你,但由于私人原因想慢慢来,他会立即把这一点明确告诉你。

他不会让你猜来猜去,因为他不想让你失落而离他而去。

如果他不愿意见你的朋友和家人,他不愿意带你走进他的圈子,

说因为这只是两个人的事,那么请自动翻译成“我只想用你来消磨时间”,“我不太喜欢你”。

如果他背叛你。

不要去想:“他喝多了”、“那只是偶尔出现的意外”、“他是不小心的”……背叛没有借口。

背叛这种事情是不会“不小心就发生”的,他不可能说“噢,我不小心摔了一跤,正好摔到别人床上去了。”

如果他都喝得醉醺醺才来找你,而不愿意在清醒时为你改变,那么就该离开,

因为长远的生活是需要清醒的。

如果时机成熟但他依然不想结婚,也许仅仅意味着“不想和你结婚”,

那些说“不想结婚”的人最后一定会结婚,只是不是和你

如果他不断的与你分手,然后又来找你和好。

如果他突然莫名其妙的消失了。

如果他是已婚。

那么多那么多的如果,其实都只有一个答案。

有时我们宁愿相信一个男人太害怕、太紧张、太自卑、太爱前女友、太敏感、太忙、童年阴影太多、家庭压力太大、太累……

却不愿意看清很简单的事实。

是的,他不是太忙,不是受过伤,

不是有童年阴影,不是遇到了意外,

不是要就任总统,不是脑震荡得了短暂性失忆,

不是手机掉进了火锅,不是有健忘症,

更不是你已经坚强到可以令他不担心,他只是没有那么喜欢你而已。

于是有人问说,要怎么去相信,他是喜欢你的。

在这个所有规则都可以被打破,所有道德都在慢慢消散的世界里,要怎么去坚定地相信?

请你,忘记半个多小时之前,我说过的所有规则。

永远别相信规则,相信自己的感觉。

我想这个时代更需要一点自欺欺人,告诉我们自己他其实很爱你,

叫你放心投入地去对待一个人,没有怀疑没有疑问揣测跟试探。

还记得我们说过的“拼命奔跑,华丽跌倒”吗?

在爱情里,也请勇敢地、坚定地、拼命奔跑吧,

然后,即使跌掉,你也可以说,自己是华丽的

《He's Just Not That Into You》里,我最爱的一段台词。

那是名叫Gigi的女生,在误会一个男生喜欢她,

然后表白之后发现是误会,被男生冷嘲热讽之后,说的一段话。

Gigi说:

我也许是太敏感太会小题大做,但至少那意味着我还在乎。

你以为用上这些所有能看透女生的规则你就赢了吗?

你也许不会再受伤,也不会再让自己出糗尴尬,但是你也永远不会再体会到那样的爱。

你不是赢,是孤独。

也许,我做了很多很傻的事情,可是我知道,这样的我会比你更快找到那个对的人。

相信自己的感觉,喜欢自己的人生。

也许所谓的happy ending并没有包括要给你一个perfect guy,

也许所谓的幸福结局,就是抱着永不放弃的希望,继续前行。

含泪奔跑,华丽跌倒。

人山人海,边走边爱。

1.女生还是要努力让自己出色些,从能力到容貌。

台湾有名广告词:认真的女人最美丽。每个人都有选择自己生活方式的权利,但一定要认真。对自己;对工作;对生活。这样的女人就算不是天生丽质,也有一种自信从容的美‘也只有这样的美,才能和时间对抗,其实也是好男人欣赏的类型。

  可能很多姐妹不是工作上很出色的人,那么能把自己收拾得干净清爽,也是一个很大的优点。不管怎么说,现实中的男人还是首先容易以貌取人的,不是所有的男人都只爱最美的女人,对于干净清爽的女人,大多数男人都是有好感的。

2.好男人,对自己有要求,对女人没要求。

  凡是自己对工作得过且过,却对自己的女友有诸多要求的男人,还是敬而远之比较好。

这样的男人,婚后变成毒舌男的机率最高。我们姐妹嫁人,最少要求的是被自己的丈夫尊重,认为自己有权利对妻子呼来喝去的男人不是好的结婚对象。

3.嫁人最主要看人品,性格。

  相似的性格,相似的人生观、金钱观是婚姻生活最好的保障。

个性不同,两个人平日里都说不来,就算是全世界都公认是金童玉女,天生一对,也是不能嫁的,毕竟你的一生中大多数时间是要与他共度的,冷暖自知。

4.一开始就说配不上你的男人,以后他永远都会配不上你。

  对一些出色的女生来说,总会遇上一些看似潜力股的男人,你为他改变自己,付出全部,他却说,你对他太好了,他的(学历,金钱,能力,地位,相貌等等)配不上你。我身边好多姐妹们的例子证明,没有自信,只能靠你屈就才能交往的男人,以后对你不会好的,你的出色只会让他更自卑。

5.托付终身前,要看一看他的家人。

  不是看他家有多少钱,是看他家家人是不是家庭和睦,关心礼让。一个家人中有男人打女人,大家还不闻不问,装作没看见的家庭,以后也不会管你的死活的。每个家庭都有缺点,要问清自己男友的态度,一味愚忠的男人,心里对妻子的尊重是有限的。

6.对自己手紧,对女友也手紧的男人没有情趣。

对自己手松,对女友手紧的男人一定自私,是最不能嫁的。

  金钱是最能看出一个男人本质和感情的东西。姐妹们谈恋爱不是谈钱,但如果他在钱上让你感觉不对,就该好好想想他是不是合适你了。在谈恋爱的时候,正常的消费是应该的,见面开始就说清要AA的男人太精于算计,也太怕吃亏了。在未来的婚姻中,有许多需要人牺牲的地方,这样的男人会最先跑掉。

7.打人的男人不能要,被打一次一定要分手

花心的,脚踩几条船的男人不能要,发现一次一定要分手。老话说了,当断不断,反受其乱。

8.恋爱中女生要有自己的底线。

  决不能因为爱他,就放弃自己的尊严,侮辱自己的父母,抛弃自己的工作。好的感情,婚姻一定是双赢,而不是单方面的牺牲和成全。

9。遇到自己喜欢的男人,一定要勇敢去追。

  单恋是最伤人的,也是最没有结果的。

10。有话明说。

  有什么想法,说出来,不要让男人去猜,能沟通,你的生活会更快乐。不能沟通,说明你们的幸福还没有保证。我想,没有一个男人是以猜女友心思为乐的。为这个原因,失去一个好男人,真的很可惜。

11.不要一开始就在男人面前做贤惠状。

  如果他对你的付出心安理得,却不懂回报,他有大男子主义的嫌疑。如果你时间长了,心里放松了,做得没有以前好,他会很受伤,会觉得你骗了他或是你不爱他了。

不如一开始,就有分寸的表达爱意,给他表现的机会,让他为你做些事。说实话,男人对自己付出的东西印象比较深刻。他为你做得越多,付出越多,他对你越留恋,越不开。反而,你的付出,他的获得他比较没感觉。在婚姻中,常干家务活,常照顾孩子的男人放弃婚姻的可能性要低得多,也正是因为这个家是他辛苦造就的,他更舍不得放弃。

很多花心狠心的男人都有一个最贤惠,无私的女人在默默付出。我最终下决心嫁给自己的男友,是因为他和我说:我非常操心你,,我总怕你过得不好,或是遇上什么事,只要一不看见你,我就非常担心你。他的付出和我的感激是我们俩最好的相处模式。

12.当断则断。

  人人都有犯错的可能,但如果一错再错,就是自己有问题。好多姐妹因为“和他在一起N年了”,“他是我第一个男人”,“我为他流过N个孩子了”,“我为了付出了……”“我已经……岁了”而忍受和一个不善待自己的男人生活在一起,最后受伤的还是自己。我的一个朋友和我说过:这个世界上的事,没有一成不变的,它要么变好,要么变坏,总之,没有不变的。这句话直接促使我走出了一段不好的感情。因为,我知道,如果要变,那段感情只会变得更差,以后我受得伤会更多。我的勇敢是我现在过得不错最坚实的基础。

13.因为爱而爱,不是为了一场漂亮的婚礼或是梦想中奢华的生活而爱。

  一切幸福都需付出代价,但不要让有些代价毁了你的一生。年轻的女生容易被虚荣所蒙蔽,但在真正的婚姻中,那个能在夜里给你盖上蹬掉的被子的男人才是值得托付一生的男人。

14.要珍惜真正爱你且对你好的男人。

  好的男人会以真正对你有益的方式对你好,不是纵容你,也不是以爱你的名义束缚你。这样的男人很少,如果遇到了,一定要珍惜。年轻的男人往往会以纯真的方式爱自己的女友,他可能不成熟,但他的爱是真的,不要轻意放弃。以后在社会上历练多了,你才会知道一颗真心有多宝贵。

15.一切都来得及。

  这个世上有很多好男人正是苦苦寻找另一半。不是所有的男人都只爱处女,也不是所有的男人都会在乎你以前的婚姻,更不是所有的男人都在意你的年龄学历。有很多好的婚姻中,男人爱的,是自己女人的笨,天真及及圆圆的身材,或是嘴角的那颗痣。你受过的伤,他会加倍疼惜,你的勇敢,会让他更加尊重。所以,即使受了伤,也要像金三顺一样,勇敢去爱,就像没有受过伤一样。你只有首先开放了自己,这个世界才会放开你。

16.不要为男人一开始的追求就付出自己的心。

  好男人和坏男人在追求你之初,都会关心你,接你送你,给你发短信,在你生病时照顾你。不要一有人对你好,你就马上陷进去,想一想,多看一看,再做决定。一般,四个月,足够的接触,足以让你了解他。网上的交往不算的,再长时间的网络接触也不算的,真实的生活才有意义。你要和他一起吃饭,逛街,一起做些事,才能了解他。你过得快不快乐,你自己知道。很多时候,不是男人在欺骗我们,是我们自己在骗自己。

17.如果爱他,接受他的现在,别幻想他的改变。

  如果他能改,当然最好,不然,就想一想,你能不能接受。婚前的每一个缺点,婚后都会被放大。他抽烟,而你又爱他,就努力接受吧,婚后戒烟的男人太少了。其他缺点也是一样。

永远不要对这些人好

1、有事的时候找你 没事儿的时候无视你

2、受你点恩惠就对你倍儿好但平时对你指手划脚

3、泛泛之交 没必要 掏心挖肺的对人家先看看这人值不值得交 相处时间久了你一定会更了解一个人 更清楚应该怎么样对他

4、不要对谁都是一副怜惜的心情 不是每个人都值得你那么做

5、不要对不怀好意的人心软 你该做的只是在他哭的时候不要笑 而没必要去嘘寒问暖 不是每个人都会理解那是善意的 想象力是可怕的它可以把一切美好的东西扭曲 更何况你又不确定那个人是否领情 又何必自讨没趣呢

6、分手了 可以是陌生人 可以是朋友 但是时刻提醒自己你们之间的关系不是从前 如果实在不习惯可以慢慢适应 但不要像在一起的时候那样对对方因为回不去了 付出的再多 也无济于事说不定人家还觉得你烦了呢 有那份心不如对自己好点 何必做一个貌似伟大还自己受苦的痴情种呢?

7、心里没有你的人 不要妄想某天他会被你打动 虽然这不是绝对不可能发生的事情 但是要切记适可而止偶尔也要想想自己 但是你若是为了感动一个人而对他好 或是带有其它目的 那就另当别论了

8、不要对自以为是的人好 这样的人太以自我为中心 你的好在他眼里可能是理所应当的 虽然你可能不这么认为

其实 对别人好不好 只是看自己的心 没有确定的标准

说这么多只是希望每个人都能对自己好一点儿 不要总是为别人考虑很多

真的不是每个人 都值得你对他好

真的不是每个人都会做到 你对他好 他就对你好

真的不是 做个好人就会有好报。。。

----------------------------------------- 献给所有不会疼自己的傻孩子。

未婚的女孩希望看到不要太晚

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The news about PUGSOM

So now, the hottest news among healthcare personnel, especially doctors - regarding pulling out of Johns Hopkins University from Perdana University (PUGSOM)...

Top US medical school cuts ties with Perdana U over moneyBY ELIZABETH ZACHARIAH -  August 18, 2014.
http://www.themalaysianinsider.com/malaysia/article/top-us-medical-school-cuts-ties-with-perdana-u-over-moneyAfter a four-year alliance, the world-renowned Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine has pulled out of Malaysia's Perdana University Graduate School of Medicine (Pugsom), citing frequent late payments as the reason.
The American medical school said it made the "difficult decision" of ending the partnership in Pugsom - Malaysia’s first private teaching hospital with research facilities - because payments to Johns Hopkins under the contract were often late, adding that payments were 12 months overdue when the partnership was terminated last month.
"It was our honour and privilege to help create a new model for medical education in Malaysia by providing guidance and advice to Pugsom and by assisting in teaching and in the initiation of the school," its director of marketing and communications, Lindsay R Rothstein, told The Malaysian Insider in an email.
"However, we reached the difficult decision to end the existing relationship because payments required under the agreement for the services provided by Johns Hopkins and its faculty were frequently received late and at the time the agreement was terminated, Johns Hopkins had not been paid for more than 12 months of work." Rothstein said the situation had become "untenable" but added that despite its disappointment over the outcome of the partnership, it would not close its doors on other international collaborations.
"As of July 31, 2014, Johns Hopkins, its faculty and its curriculum are no longer associated with Pugsom. While we are deeply disappointed by this outcome, we hold firm to our belief that international collaborations such as this are critical to advancing our mission.” Pugsom, established in 2010 under the initiative of the Academic Medical Centre Sdn Bhd (AMC), offered a four-year medical course in collaboration with John Hopkins, which reportedly cost RM800,000.
When Prime Minister Datuk Seri Najib Razak announced the partnership between Johns Hopkins and Malaysian and American investors in September 2010, he said the school would become a medical research hub in the region.
Datuk Seri Liow Tiong Lai, who was then Health Minister, was reported as saying that the presence of the prestigious Johns Hopkins in Malaysia would boost the country's health tourism industry. The Public Services Department sponsored students enrolled in the Pugsom programme.
Johns Hopkins, meanwhile, said the official notice of its decision to end the partnership was sent to AMC on March 17 this year but it allowed the faculty to remain reaching until July 31 in the interest of students attending Pugsom.
"Since the date of the notice on March 17, 2014, in order to protect the interests of the students attending Pugsom, Johns Hopkin voluntarily and at our own expense, allowed its faculty to remain teaching through July 31, 2014, and maintained other aspects of our presence at Pugsom," Rothstein added.
"Also during this timeframe, Johns Hopkins allowed the school to use the Johns Hopkins 'Genes to Society' curriculum and the 'in Collaboration with Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine' tag line."
However, checks on the university's website earlier this week showed that the Pugsom programme, along with the tagline of the collaboration with Johns Hopkins, was still being advertised.
Perdana University vice-chancellor Professor Datuk Dr Sothi Rachagan, when contacted, declined to comment but said that a statement would be issued.
Pugsom, which opened its doors in September 2011, is believed to currently have three batches of medical students. Its chancellor is Malaysia's longest-serving prime minister Tun Dr Mahathir Mohamad.
The campus is located at the Malaysia Agro Exposition Park Serdang (MAEPS) in Serdang. It was reported in 2011 that it would move to a 141-acre campus costing RM2.3 billion by 2014. The new campus, also located in Serdang, is expected have its own 600-bed private teaching hospital.
Here's some info about PUGSOM, source from this website....
In collaboration with Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine, PUGSOM is a private medical institution located on a 130-acre campus in the outskirts of Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. It is the first graduate school of medicine in the country to offer a four-year doctor of medicine degree.
Perdana University Graduate School of Medicine is an integrated academic medical center with Johns Hopkins values: excellence, discovery and innovation in medical education, research and patient care. The University encompasses a graduate school of medicine, a teaching hospital and a research enterprise.

Perdana University offers:
  • A collaboration with the Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine, a global leader in medical education, research and patient care 
  • A post-baccalaureate medical school that includes a fully integrated teaching hospital and basic and clinical science research enterprise 
  • A graduate medical education after the American model
  • A curriculum based upon Genes to Society, an innovative approach to medical education researched, developed, streamlined and used by the Johns Hopkins School of Medicine in Baltimore, Maryland, USA 
  • Student-centered medical education with outstanding permanent faculty, as well as visiting faculty from the Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine 
  • A commitment to innovative research PUGSOM faculty are pioneers. 

Since working in pascasiswazah hospital Kuala Lumpur as floating Medical Officer, i had been given few tasks regarding medical students, from elective posting medical students to the medical students that doing their clinical year study in Hospital Kuala Lumpur... There is just so many of them.

Ok, regarding Perdana University, most of us only know about the existance of that university and it's collaboration with John Hopkins University, but actually, not many people knows that The Royal College of Surgeon Ireland also one of the partner university of Perdana University (ok, at least i dono, T_T)

So the two medical degree programmes from Perdana University are:
1. Perdana University Graduate School of Medicine:
Doctor of Medicine 4+0, in collaboration with the Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine.
2. Perdana University RCSI:
Medical Degree Programme 5 + 0, in collaboration with the Royal College of Surgeons in Ireland.



From the MoH between KKM and Perdana University on 27th Nov 2011, it's clearly stated that the government hospital that can be utilized for teaching and training of the students from Perdana University are:
  1. Hospital Putrajaya
  2. Hospital Tuanku Jaafar, Seremban
  3. Hospital Bentong
  4. Hospital Likas
  5. Hospital Beaufort
  6. Hospital Kuala Lumpur (Jabatan Perubatan)
However, it seems that after some meeting and negotiation, Hospital Kuala Lumpur (HKL) has became a major teaching hospital of  Perdana University,. Therefore, the university have access to the core teaching of Departments of General Medicine, General Surgery, Obstetric and Gynaecology, Paediatric Medicine.

Also, on a meeting on mid-June 2013 in HKL, one of our HKL O&G consultant had been appointed as Liason Officer for PU-GSOM and PU-RCSI medical students' training in HKL, and our deputy director is appointed as the Liason Officer in charge of the postgraduate programme of that university in HKL.

Now that the tie between Johns Hopkins University and Perdana University had cut, i wonder how is the postgraduate programme going on. So now we doctors have less choice to do our postgraduate study in this so called "American-assiciated" university ....

Alright, i have not much comment on this, life goes on, I am sure that university will come out with a nice and convincing statement to assure medical students and public that the university is still one of the best in the country, and it will continue work to achieve their goal...

Till then.

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Asia for Jesus - Lyric

Touched by this song today...

亞洲為耶穌(Asia For JESUS)/神的軍隊(Army Of God)
作詞:曹之懿, Redo Daeng Badji
作曲:曹之懿, Redo Daeng Badji
演唱:曹之懿
年份:2013

這世代正需要更新思想到來
這世代正需要神百姓站出來
這世代正需要天國復興的到來
這世代正需要生命榮耀重返

興起禱告的烈火 建立敬拜的祭壇
進入神呼召道路 迎接耶穌再來

Asia For JESUS (We are Asia for Jesus) 要建立大能的教會
Asia For JESUS (We are Asia for Jesus) 是完成使命的大軍隊
Asia For JESUS (We are Asia for Jesus) 宣告神掌管了一切
我們要一起走到世界的終點 (Where my soldiers at)

(RAP)
Aiyo 這是Asia for JESUS
我們像戰士努力著 站在堅固的磐石上
We do it like JESUS, do it like JESUS
了解天父的心大使命
不管困難逼迫我們走到地極去
 這福音是神的大能 要救一切相信的百姓
Uh這是rock and rap
聽我發聲 順服權柄兩代結合這才大聲
打開天堂大門看見愛和希望就在我們周圍發生
chyeah 這是關鍵的豐收時刻 成為天國使者絕對值得
跟隨約書亞let the King Jehovah
帶領他的軍隊進入Asia

We are we are the army of God 燃燒燃燒來得著這地
We are we are the army of God 燃燒燃燒來得著這地
We are we are the army of God
oh oh 燃燒燃燒來得著這地
 燃燒燃燒來得著這地
We are we are the army of God
oh oh 燃燒燃燒來得著這地

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